SelfNow

Relationships are built and are built better when you know yourself better and you know your partner.

The first aspect that we must consider, to build a relationship of mutual growth, is our predominant channel of perception; Ignorance of which can cause discomfort in everyday life.




1. If your predominant channel of perception is visual; That is, your attention is on your eyes, the image is important to you and visual clutter bothers you; It is very important that you recognize this aspect and that your partner also knows it and gets used to leaving things in their place.



VISUAL

2. If your predominant perception channel is auditory; That is, your attention is on your ears, and noise bothers you; It is very important that you recognize this aspect and your partner too; getting used to not shouting and I conquered you by hearing.



AUDITORY

3. If your predominant channel of perception is sensory; That is, your attention is on the sensations; It is very important that you recognize this aspect and your partner too; getting used to your sensitivity and need for movement.



SENSORY KINESTHETIC

The second fundamental aspect for a relationship is to know what our main search and motivation is; which can be of 3 types:




1. Material security.- If material things, money, are very important to us and our partner does not satisfy this aspect, we will feel the need to look elsewhere for this aspect that is so important to us.



Motivation and material search

2. Emotional security.- If the emotional aspect, affection and being treated well, are very important to us; But, in our partner we do not find this factor, we will feel the need to look elsewhere for this aspect.



Motivation and emotional search

3. Mental development.- If the mental aspect is very important to us, having a partner who helps us have a greater understanding of life; But, in our partner we do not find this aspect, we will feel the need to look for this aspect elsewhere.



Motivation and mental search

It is important to note that a full relationship integrates these three aspects of each of the members of the couple; so both individually and in the relationship; We must develop, in ourselves, our aspects: material, emotional and mental.




The third aspect to consider, for a constructive relationship, is to be able to establish a horizontal relationship; that is, a relationship of flexibility between leadership, autonomy and collaboration.




1. If the role you assume most of the time is a leader in a very high percentage; You should be careful not to treat your partner like an employee.



LEADER

2. If the role you assume most of the time is autonomy, in a very high percentage; You must take care to establish a sharing, between the two people, without isolating yourself.



AUTONOMOUS

3. If the role you assume most of the time is collaborative, in a very high percentage; You must take care not to wait all the time for someone to tell you what to do and take the initiative if required.



COLLABORATOR

The fourth aspect to consider is the energy and time you dedicate to yourself, family, social and transcendental.




1. You and your partner should know if your personalist percentage is important; So for you, the most important thing will be to dedicate time and energy to yourself.



PERSONALIST

2. You and your partner should know if your familialist percentage is important; So for you, the most important thing will be to dedicate time and energy to your family.



FAMILIARIST

3. You and your partner should know if your socialist percentage is important; So, for you, the most important thing will be what happens in society, work meetings and friendship.



SOCIALIST

4. You and your partner should know if your transcendentalist percentage is important; then, they will be important to you; the transcendental and Being aspects.



TRANSCENDENTALIST

SATISFACTION IN AREAS OF LIFE




1.  Personal Satisfaction

Contentment with oneself.



STAFF

2.  Family Satisfaction

Contentment with the family you have received.



FAMILIAR

3.  Social Satisfaction

Contentment with social and work relationships.



SOCIAL

4.  Satisfaction in the Transcendental

Contentment with your transcendental aspects.



TRANSCENDENTAL

If you are in a relationship; considers that differences and similarities are inevitable; and they can be enriching, if approached consciously. Do this same study with/for your partner.